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God’s Astonishing Wisdom for Your Relationship

Salomé Roat

We live in interesting times that require true wisdom. The kind that comes with a heavenly price tag.

The world says, “I know what your relationship needs. This is what wisdom looks like, and you should totally do this thing because it’s the answer for you!”

But the world doesn’t have real wisdom because real wisdom comes only from the Lord, and the world can’t understand the things of God (1 Cor. 2:14).

If we want real wisdom, we need to go to God and fill our hearts with Him.

When I finished writing Becoming the One, I knew the Lord wanted me to subdivide it into different sections. I ended up titling the first section “Why Marriage Is Important,” and it begins with this simple verse: 

The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom.
    Though it cost all you have, get understanding. (Prov. 4:7 NIV)

Why is the wisdom of God so important—especially in marriage? Why is it good to pay the price for His holy understanding?

Here are two ideas about God’s wisdom and how much we need it in our relationships.

First, the wisdom of the Lord causes our relationships to be healthy, good for us, and solid.

Let’s say a young man and woman meet each other, feel instant attraction, and jump into a relationship. They just met and barely know each other, but they’re convinced they’re in love, and they move in together or immediately start having sex.

But then, much to their surprise, the relationship dissolves a short time later, and both people are left heartbroken, confused about what real love looks like, and hesitant about trusting the opposite sex in the future. 

This happens to couples all the time, and it doesn’t need to. What if, after meeting one another, these two people had responded in a different way? “God, this person really interests me. What do You think? What would You like me to do? Please give me Your wisdom.”

The relationship might have worked out in the long run—if the wisdom of God had been allowed to direct it.

God and His Word are clear on this subject; the choice will always be ours. We get to say “yes” or “no” to His wisdom. When we say “yes,” we are able to value His voice and honor His Word. Obeying what He says leads us down a path of blessings.

Our heavenly Father wants to bless us in so many ways, but He also requires our obedience. We need to choose Him and do what His wisdom says. Wisdom and obedience look like joy; the path of obedience speaks wisdom. 

Second, the wisdom of the Lord encompasses our deepest desires.

Many of us have prayer requests, wishes, dreams, and New Year resolutions in mind for this coming year.

Maybe you’re asking God for a raise, a better job, a new house or living situation, a better career opportunity, the man or woman of your dreams, or a new car. Maybe you’re hoping your significant other finally proposes, or if you’re married, perhaps you’re praying for better communication, more understanding, less strife and anxiety, and more fun in your marriage.

What is the desire of your heart?

Many of us know the story of King Solomon and how God appeared to him in a dream and asked, “What do you want Me to do for you?”  

Solomon could have asked for anything. Any desire. But instead of riches or his enemies’ defeat, he asked for wisdom so he could rule God’s people well. This pleased God’s heart, and He gave him a lot more than he asked for. Not only did Solomon become the wisest person to ever live (1 Kings 3:12), but God poured so much wealth on him and his kingdom that silver became like common stone (1 Kings 10:27).

We need the wisdom of God. All of us do. His wisdom is deeply entwined with His righteousness, and those who seek His kingdom and His righteousness, above and beyond anything else, will receive everything (Matt. 6:33; Ps. 37:4).

Here at the end of 2021, set your heart to pursue God’s wisdom. If you’re married, dating someone, or hopeful about meeting someone new, the wisdom of God will change everything for you.

I believe this is God’s Word for us—for BTO, for you, for me, and for His people in general. During these interesting times, let’s learn to discern His beautiful voice and follow the ways of His astonishing wisdom.

Please join us for a special activity in the month of January!

Leon and I invite you to join us in reading the book of Proverbs, starting January 1.

Read one chapter a day, and take notes about what the Lord says or highlights to you. Then please consider sharing your notes with us (whatever you feel comfortable with), because we’re pursuing Him and His wisdom right along with you.

 

Your heavenly Father loves you more than you realize. Other articles from Salomé Roat and Becoming the One:

For more information on sex, marriage, and finding the person who is right for you, get a copy of Becoming the One by Salomé Roat. Click here to learn more. The book is also available in Spanish.