How God’s Love Can Save Your Relationship


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Vinicio and Melania’s marriage almost didn’t make it. 

On the outside, it looked like their marriage was vibrant. Working together, they ministered to troubled youth in Ecuador and helped bring women out of sex trafficking and prostitution. 

But on the inside, they were struggling with communication and compatibility issues. They’d fallen in love with each other and their mission, but in their day-to-day life together, they were having a hard time getting along.

“We were both thirty years old,” Vinicio told me, “and we each had such a different way of thinking and doing things. We were opposites in a lot of ways. That first year was tough. It’s crazy to say, but we felt like giving up and divorcing.”

One day they sat together and talked about their marriage, and both of them felt led to give the Lord all their hopes and struggles. At a point of desperation, they asked God for help, and He revealed to them how they could move past their differences and follow a new path, one based on unconditional love. 

He gave them two verses from 1 Corinthians 13: 

If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. (1 Cor. 13:2–3)

That afternoon, everything began to change for them. They discovered a new love for each other that doesn’t give up and isn’t selfish. They realized that true love, the love of God, is about sacrifice. 

As the Lord equipped them with a deeper understanding of His love, which was exactly what they needed, their marriage was radically transformed. Instead of falling apart, it grew stronger. 

What Do You Think?

  1. How does a deeper understanding of God’s love affect your ability to love your significant other?
  2. What do you feel is the greatest transformation you have gone through?
  3. Have you ever made a significant sacrifice for someone you love? What happened? 
  4. What do you want your future marriage to be like? What can you start doing now to become the one for your future spouse?


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