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Most of us are suckers for a good love story. It doesn’t even have to be all that unique or creative—we want to hear how all these spinning pieces that seem random and unconnected were brought together by God to form a solid, strong, healthy match between two people. A match He wanted to happen.  

Each couple’s love story is special and tinged with hints of divine guidance. From dating to engagement to the wedding day and honeymoon, love stories are narratives we enjoy hearing and are willing to share again and again. When times grow difficult, these stories of newness and hope are the glue that helps us stay together, reminding us of why we fell in love in the first place. 

Marriage, however, is not just about dating, the betrothal, or the honeymoon. Marriage is really what happens when the honeymoon is over. 

Becoming the one for your spouse is far more than the physical act of making love. You are forming an emotional and spiritual bond with your marriage partner that, if cultivated, will last a lifetime. 

Marriage is a covenant made between not two but three entities: the husband, the wife, and God. In its broadest scope, that is what marriage means and looks like—a divine covenant.

What Do You Think?

1. Do you think it is important to involve God in your decision to get married? Why or why not?
2. What qualities do you look for in the person you want to date? 
3. What is your definition of marriage?
4. Does the idea of making a covenant before God scare you? Why or why not?
5. What do you think will be the hardest aspect of marriage, and why do you think it will be difficult? 

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