Worried About Being Single? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Be…

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Do you feel like meeting the right person is up to you?

Or, put another way, do you feel like it’s your fault you’re single?

Many singles feel the need to prove themselves, and they blame themselves for not being with someone.

“I must be doing something wrong.”  

“I need to change who I am if I want to meet somebody.”

“It’s up to me to find my spouse. I need to make this happen.”

But is any of that true?

We don’t think so!

At Becoming the One, we believe that God plays a HUGE role in your dating life.

Just like the Bible says, your true strength doesn’t come from you—it comes from the Lord. Your “job,” if you will, is to open your heart to Him, get to know Him better, let yourself be vulnerable with Him, and trust that He will show you what to do. 

The following Scriptures are true about your dating life, even though they were originally written about war. 

Read them slowly, keep your spiritual ears open to the Holy Spirit, and consider what these verses might mean for you personally:

They did not conquer the land with their swords;
    it was not their own strong arm that gave them victory.
It was your right hand and strong arm
    and the blinding light from your face that helped them,
    for you loved them. (Ps. 44:3 NLT) 

Only by your power can we push back our enemies;
    only in your name can we trample our foes.
I do not trust in my bow;
    I do not count on my sword to save me.
You are the one who gives us victory over our enemies. (Ps. 44:5–7 NLT)

It doesn’t matter how good you are at dating. You could be the best “dater” in the world. You could follow all the recommendations and do everything you’re supposed to do. 

But at the end of the day, only God brings the victory you seek.

Your future rests in His faithful, tender, very trustworthy hands.

So, if you’ve been worried you’re not doing enough, you aren’t good enough, or your singleness is all your fault—let go of those unnecessary burdens and trust the Lord. He is helping you, and if there’s something you need to do, in His faithfulness He will show you.

Keep your heart open to Him this week, and take note of any ideas He quietly brings to your mind.  

He has good plans for you, and you will get to see the amazing, wonderful outcome of trusting Him with your dating life!

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