Saying “Yes” to Online Dating: An Interview with Amy G.
In the following interview, Amy G. (39) talks about meeting her boyfriend, Colby, on a dating app. Online dating was NOT something she wanted to try, but she decided to give it a shot during the 2020 shutdowns, and now she’s getting to see the goodness of God in a wonderful, unexpected way. Sometimes God sets an amazing gift right outside the border of your comfort zone.
BTO: How did you meet Colby?
Amy G.: I met him on a Christian dating app. We’ve been dating for a year now.
BTO: Why did you decide to do online dating?
Amy G.: In all honesty, I was one of those people who’s anti online dating. I was like, “Nobody actually meets that way!”
But with everything that happened with shutdowns and all the related things in 2020, I was thinking, Where am I supposed to meet this person?
My girlfriend who had become a widow suddenly started putting herself out there with online dating, and I thought, If she can do it, I should probably try. Within a week, I met Colby.
BTO: Would you recommend online dating?
Amy G.: Actually, yes, I would. It’s crazy—but it kind of gets you out of your way a little bit, and you’re meeting someone’s heart before you’re meeting their face, which I appreciated. Colby and I talked for a week before he finally asked, “Um, are you ever going to let me take you out?”
I was like, “Oh. I guess…” It was comfortable texting and not actually having to be face-to-face because I’m soooo awkward with dudes!
BTO: What is different about Colby compared to the other men you’ve dated?
Amy G.: I have never been with someone who has true intimacy with Christ in the same way I do. I was married before, and we both grew up in church, but we weren’t living that life. We hadn’t been for a long time. This was my mindset: “Oh, we believe the same things, so it’s fine.” But when we were married, I actually went all-in for the Lord, and it broke us up because he wasn’t going that way. I was going a different way.
With Colby, we are both Christ centered. The Lord is our walk, and that helps to bond us. He is so not my typical type! But it worked out.
BTO: What is your typical type?
Amy G.: In my past, it was the “bad boy.” Somebody who was kind of a jerk and was covered in tattoos. So getting a nice, next-door type of guy, who is actually kind and sweet, is a completely different thing for me.
BTO: How have you felt God leading you during the dating process?
Amy G.: Especially in the beginning, we prayed so much together about our relationship. “Is this good for our walk with the Lord? Is this something that’s going to help us get closer to the Lord or separate us from that relationship?” We continually checked in to make sure that we weren’t being deterred from our walk with the Lord. So that’s been different.
We pray together every morning, and that’s a completely different thing. Every morning we text a prayer for the other person or our families. Things like that. That really is different.
BTO: Has God given you any promises for your future that you’re seeing come about?
Amy G.: I’ve gotten a lot of prophecies about my future husband, and it was never clear to me. I was always like, “Okay, yeah, sure. He’s this way and he’s that way.”
But when I met Colby, all of a sudden, the things that people had said kind of shifted, and I started seeing those words in him. That’s been different, I guess you could say. One of my clients prophesied that the guy for me always wore a hat. I was like, “What does that mean?” But Colby always wears a hat.
BTO: What is your advice to singles who are waiting to meet the right person?
Amy G.: I would say to constantly check in with the Lord if you really feel like you are ready for someone, because I was single for seven years before I met Colby. And trust me—for the last five years of that, I was like, “Where is he?!”
But I know now that I wasn’t ready. I had a lot of healing to do after my divorce and everything that happened. Take your time pursuing God and “dating” Him—you won’t miss the boat. If there’s a person out there for you, God’s choice, you can’t miss it. Just pursue God, and He will put that person in your way.
Check out a few of our other love-story interviews:
Dealing with Fear in Your Dating Relationship: An Interview with Matt
When Your Spouse Isn’t What You Expected: An Interview with Jennifer
When God’s Plan Is Different Than Yours: An Interview with Asaya
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