Finding Mr. or Miss Right


Several weeks ago, I spoke with a young friend I will call Ryan. He had recently met a beautiful young lady, and it seemed they were perfect for one another. When I saw them together, they had huge smiles and appeared ridiculously happy.

But a short time later, Ryan came to see me. The relationship had fallen apart and he was heartbroken.

What happened?

Unfortunately, I see this pattern all the time. Many people get caught up in the infatuation and physical stage of a new relationship and don’t stop to consider the deeper issues of why they feel the need to rush. So they often end up throwing themselves into a situation they aren’t ready for.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.


You Have an Important Choice

You’re on your way to finding the perfect mate, the one God has designed for you. Maybe you have a certain person in mind as you read this. Maybe you’re seriously dating someone, and you’re thinking about taking the next step. Your path has crossed with this person’s for a reason, and God is giving the two of you a choice.

You can run passionately ahead, ignoring all questions and caution signals.

Or you can take a momentary step back from the situation to pray and evaluate whether this person could be Mr. or Miss Right.


How to Know If You’re Marrying the Right Person

For many young people, the road to finding Mr. or Miss Right is strewn with multiple relationships and heartbreaks. Many people find themselves in serious relationships and aren’t sure if they’re dating the right person. They can end up settling because they think the perfect match isn’t out there.

I’ve known many people who met, fell in love, and then—despite the warning signs—rushed into marriage. Unfortunately, some of them found themselves in poor or even devastating situations that were filled with pain.

You don’t have to be one of those people. Here are a few steps you can take to avoid the pain of a broken relationship:

  1. Pray about the person you’re considering marrying. What is God saying about your future with this person?
  2. Spend some time apart from each other and get God’s perspective on the relationship.
  3. Seek the advice and counsel of mentors, parents, and people who know you well. Those closest to you can usually see potential problems more clearly.

Many young people don’t even consider seeking the Holy Spirit’s guidance in their marriage decisions. But God is the One who created us, and He wants only good things for us and our relationships. We can pray ahead of time and ask Him for His counsel in what to do.

God is always willing to help us find our way. That is true even after we’ve taken a wrong turn and don’t feel like we deserve His help.

Whether you are dating someone or hoping to date someone, you can use this time to prepare for your future marriage. Enjoy this stage of your life, remembering you never have to settle for less than God’s best.


Interested in reading more on this topic? This article is based on Becoming the One by Salomé Roat. Click here to learn more!