If You’re Single and You’re Waiting…


Do you find it easy to wait?

Marriage is wonderful, but honestly, it should never be the ultimate goal of our lives. Many young people end up believing, “This is it. If I’m not married, I’m not successful.” But that isn’t true. The only thing that can completely satisfy every longing of our lives is our relationship with God.

As you wait to meet that special person, the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with, it’s good to keep the following points in mind:


1. It’s okay to be single.

Marriage has its benefits—but so does singleness. In fact, when you marry, everything changes, and you have to learn how to live differently. Your attention is divided, and you have to restructure your life. Ask your married friends how their lives have changed, and see what they say.

As a single person, you don’t have to wait to have a great life. You can have it right now. You get to pursue your dreams, be passionate about what you do, and grow as a person. Don’t waste this special period of singleness by spending all your time wishing for the future.


2. You are special and worth knowing.

When people or spiritual forces attack, they go after those aspects of your character you hold most dear. They attack your identity, which is the core of who you are. When this happens, you can respond the same way Jesus did: with God’s Word and the truth you know about yourself (Matthew 4:4).

During this time of singleness, prepare your heart. Get to know yourself, and be expectant of God’s truths, His blessings, and the great things He has for you, including a spouse. Learn how to be content with what you have right now.


3. God is good and He loves you.

Many people don’t have a good view of God. They believe He is angry, absent, punishing, boring, legalistic, etc. But these negative beliefs will change as we get to know Him for who He truly is. He really is good, and He has the best for us. Never will there be a reason for us to fear the plans He has for us (Jeremiah 29:11).

The Lord knows us well and loves us perfectly. Our connection with Him changes us and allows us to love and experience intimacy in relationships more freely. We can’t consistently demonstrate deep affection toward someone if we’ve never experienced being loved by God. So if we want to love our spouses, the best thing we can do is get to know God and how He loves us. That is the secret.

You’re on a path to finding the perfect mate—the one God has designed for you. In the midst of your time of singleness, God is giving you a choice. You can throw yourself into a situation you may not be ready for, or you can take a step back to pray and evaluate, focus on God, and discover your heart.