The Wisdom of God: Dating Without Fear
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Fear makes dating difficult for a lot of people.
“I can’t ask her to hang out. What if she rejects me?”
“I’m not as pretty as the other girls. He probably doesn’t even know I exist.”
“What if this is a huge mistake? What if this person hurts me?”
“I’m a failure. I’m not good at relationships. I’ll probably be single forever.”
Here’s a verse that is true in all situations, including getting to know someone who could end up being your spouse:
I went to Yahweh for help.
He answered me and rescued me from all my fears. (Ps. 34:4 NOG)
That is a beautiful, awe-filled dating verse. When we go to the Lord for help, He will answer us and deliver us from all our fears.
One of the most powerful things we can do when we’re afraid is ask God what He wants us to know right then.
“I am afraid of making a mistake. What do You want me to know?”
He might say, “I am helping you.” Or “Those who trust in Me will never be ashamed.” We get to be courageous as we follow His leading, knowing we won’t be destroyed!
“Father, I am scared of getting hurt! What do You want me to know?” He might say, “You have no reason to be afraid.” Or “I am helping you make wise decisions about men/women.”
He rescues us from fear. That is what He does—again and again and again, no matter what the fear is or how many times we find ourselves afraid.
This month at Becoming the One, we’re talking about a culture of wisdom. When it comes to dating and marriage, all of us need to know that God will deliver us from our fears. That simple truth will give us courage and help us go to Him for help when we’re struggling. We don’t “date alone.” That is, we don’t have to figure everything out by ourselves—we get to listen to His wisdom.
What are you afraid of right now?
What dating fear are you struggling with?
Put Psalm 34:4 into practice!
1. Go to Yahweh for help.
2. Listen to the Holy Spirit.
3. Let Him tell you the truth—about your situation, about you, about Him. His truth will set you free from fear.
Beloved child of God, He is with you! He loves your heart and all the desires He has written inside it. Never be afraid to step out of your comfort zone with Him. Instead, see every fear as an opportunity to hold your heavenly Father’s hand and listen for His voice.
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