Dreaming with God: The Secret to Lasting Compatibility
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“Am I compatible with this person? How can I tell if this relationship would work out?”
This month at Becoming the One, we’re talking about compatibility. We could approach this loaded topic from a variety of angles, but this week let’s talk about an aspect of compatibility that is often overlooked: the need for you to be yourself in a relationship.
How can we discuss topics like financial planning, having children, and building a legacy if we don’t know what we really want?
True compatibility can’t happen when one or both people don’t know who they are. They need to have at least a basic idea of how God made them, how they operate, their desires and dreams—in order to reach a heart-level agreement with another person.
Do you know what you want in life?
What has God put on your heart to accomplish? If you could do anything, what would you do? If you could live anywhere, where would you live? How many children do you want? What do you want your bank account to look like in the future? When do you want to retire? What kind of house do you want to live in?
All those things are important, and daydreaming about them with the Holy Spirit can be an absolute delight!
But many people close the door to dreaming with God because they believe things about themselves that aren’t true.
This is always an important part of both compatibility and knowing who you are: believing what the wonderful, beautiful heart of God thinks about you.
Becoming compatible with another person starts in this place:
With the truth that God loves you. He loves you right now, exactly where you are today. He sees you through the lens of Jesus, not through the lens of your past mistakes, the sin you’re still struggling with, or the places where you are afraid. He loves you. He loves you. He loves you.
With the truth that He has brilliant, amazing plans for your life. You can dream wildly with Him, and you can fully, 100% expect Him to bring you a spouse whose heart is shockingly compatible with yours.
Dare to dream crazy, unique, previously unheard-of dreams with God, and trust Him to bring along someone else who loves those dreams with you.
Speak out loud the truth of God: “I am not my past. God has declared, ‘Not guilty,’ over me. I have been set free by the blood of Jesus. I am brave. I am bold. I am an amazing person, and I get to be with the amazing person God has for me. He has a good plan for my life, and I trust Him to arrange my life according to His goodness.”
Do you need help dreaming wildly with God?
Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. (Eph. 3:20 NLT)
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Your heavenly Father loves you more than you realize! For more about His amazing, unending love, check out Becoming the One by Salomé Roat. Click here to learn more. The book is also available in Spanish.